Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #5]

[mulesqb]

I can spend an hour talking about this, but to summarize ... Foremost, I hope my kids see a solid, steady, kind and loving father. That's the most important thing to me. For myself, I want to see someone who had the strength to seek what is right, and do what is right. In that regard, I'm a work-in-progress, but I feel good that I'm giving it my all. I will keep thinking about this. Your question is a gift.

Interesting FG. I love your response. Here's the thing: In taking a look at yourself your first response was hoping your kids see you as a "solid, steady, loving father." (btw that's how I would have answered also). BUT for yourself you very humbly admit to being a work-in-progress and that you want to see someone who had strength to seek what is right and do what is right..

I think it's incredibly telling about your character that you continue to put your kids first. Nobody can ever question that. BUT for your kids to see you the way you want them to I think you have to get to that person you want yourself to be. In other words, there are times you need to put yourself first. This is one of those times and in essence you are ultimately doing it for them. They want to see you as the leading, strong, steady man you are looking to be (and quite frankly are a lot closer to being than you think). I hope that makes sense.

You are close FG. Keep working, it's not easy, but it will payoff. This is about you, not any R. As CT puts it, you're in a fight for self. You can handle it.

I am in limbo, but every morning I get to wake up and see my kids -- I'm thankful for it. That's what I want right now.

I think limbo is what makes you feel so lonely. So gameplan. What's the next play against limbo?? I always like an aggressive approach as opposed to a conservative one. But I'm an old QB so that's to be expected. What do you think?

Strength and Honor.

Mules