I don't have much to offer in the way of advice, but what Vanilla shares is of sound logic and information as I have read a little in the case that my D were to head into conflict waters...
Lawyers are there to help us, but I fear that sometimes they will not go to the lengths that are needed to always help us... There will be much that falls to you and I am praying that the needed guidance,inspiration and strength is there for you.
You have been able to gather great strength over the past months and I see a strong calm prepared Phoebe. That does not mean that it will be easy not come without a fight, but you will need to protect yourself and often times in a fight, that will require efficient offensive movement as well as defensive.
I will be here for you and I know that may seem without much punch as these are a words on a screen from a faceless person whom you met virtually not much time ago, but, I can tell you that I truely do pray for you, I think of you, I worry for you and I am a real caring person for you on this side of the thin veil that is the virtual forum and community... A very thin veil that has another side...
Keep us posted...don't let the numbness keep you from us here, we are here, even as I hide a bit to resolve my own challenges, I am here for you.
(((((Phoebe)))))
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine