Vey detached, no longer anxious, in limbo

[Painter]

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Great advise from Vanilla! She's further along in this grueling process, so listen to her.

It's very difficult to harden yourself to where you become proactive. It's not in our nature to trick or lie to our spouses. Unfortunately, the honest and hesitant person is often the one to lose this game because we wait for the other person to make a move before we do. We don't like who we feel we are if we get proactive. It's a conflict I don't know the solution to, except doing what I have done - gathered tons of intel and consulted with a number of L so I know what my next move is in response to a variety of scenarios. In my case, though, there is already a property settlement agreement in place, which makes it easier.

(((((Phoebe)))))

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