I had six sessions with a DB coach and he had me do several 180s. One example I can think of is when my wife wanted to discuss our pending divorce with my sons. I was doing everything possible to resist discussing the divorce with my sons because I didn't want a divorce and I certainly didn't want to talk to my sons about it. The coach told me to get on the internet and look for articles that provided information on how to talk to children about divorce and then send the links to the articles to my wife.
In the example above, I was pursuing and trying to prevent my wife from moving toward her goal of getting a divorce. The coach was getting me to do the opposite of what I was doing (a 180) and help my wife toward her goal of talking to the boys about divorce by providing information about how to do that. That's sends the signal to my wife that I'm on board with her plans (i.e. distancing behavior).
