Actually your exact words we "we got past it". So I didn't misread.
"She gives me some crap about "didn't I tell you I wasn't happy about you playing on your computer" (she did, many years ago, before son, we got past it) "didn't I tell you a I wasn't real happy about our sex life" (she did, many years ago before our son). She says I had my chances."
In what ways did you "get past it"? In terms of the sex life, was the porn addiction before your son was born? What did you do when she told you she wasn't happy with the sex before your son was born? Did you just blow it off?
Oh, yeah. So, I cut down the PC use, and it was great for a while. However, about a year after our son was born, after we put our son down, more often than not she would tell me she's tired or something and was just going to watch TV in our MBR. As that happened more and more, I would go down and get on the PC more often after our S went to bed, so it came full circle again, and I should have realized it.
The sex thing, I went to a urologist, and, he said, physically, everything seems fine, here's some viagra. So, I took viagra, and that work OK, but there is no spontaneity with that, and our sex life dwindled. Obviously, we had sex many times trying to get pregnant, and we enjoyed it, but after pregnant, and after the child, neither of us really initiated sex, and I know my low libido was a huge cause of it (imagine, a guy not really chasing sex, and with a beautiful woman too (I'm not being biased, she is beautiful)), yet, I made excuses for it.
So, while we "got past it" the source of the problem wasn't revealed until I decided to stop making excuses, and look into my habit, and realized what it had been causing me to miss for so long. I accept the responsibility for this, and I am attacking it head on, and I expect to come out the other a better person.
M 40 W 40 S 2.5 Together 13 years Married 11 years BD: 09/23/16 PA, then long Distance EA confirmed 9/30/16 Exposed A to OM's W 10/7/16 A ended 10/10/16
