Detached, getting along better, but in limbo....

[Surfer]

Spoke to W today - she called eventually to reply to my request to help with D8 bday party. She fired a little spew when I suggested doing it at our H. I validated which stopped her. Then I enquired how long she had rented for. I am trying to get some vsision on the future for Kids and me - I am happy either at and they will be too. This limbo has gone on too long. The answer is rental is up to June next year at least (which I am paying half of, plus maintenance and all costs at the martial home). She tried to avoid telling me but eventually did when I explained I wanted to understand for the kids and me what was going on. She then changed tack and started saying everything depends on you. I explained that this is not he case as I was just asking about her renting. She suggested that if I had worked with her on a D this would not have happened (S) and by now she was heading into a spew. I said look I am sorry but I am not having this kind of conversation. It's not working for me. Talk to me later when you have calmed down. I then ended the call.

I sent a text to clarify that I didn't appreciate the way she spoke or trying to direct the conversation elsewhere to create a dispute. She added she is not comfortable talking one to one about such issues and needs a 3rd party (I.e mediator). Hopefully she will now do something about it as limbo is no good. I am feeling rather happy with life but I am not going to hang around like this forever. DBing for less than a year but these problems have been going on for he last 5-6 years and I am staring to get very bored with the drama that plays out.

I am not intending to play a part in the D but I am going to suggest some put up or shut up from her. If that doesn't work then perhaps I willl have no alternative but to pull the rip cord. Hopefully not.

It's hard to know what to do but WW will just blow £70k plus on rent etc if I let her and that's madness.

What to do.......thing is. I don't even like this person. I don't think she will change. So might as well pull the cord....

Surfer.