The one thing that sticks me is, one of my problems was I didn't spend time with my W, nor communicated well; however, following Sandi's 37 rules, I do even less of that (little communication, and little time spent with her).
A couple things:
1) I understand that it seems counter intuitive. You didnt spend much time with W, and now the advice is to spend LESS time with her. But really, do you think she WANTS to spend time with you? Shes asking for space. So the best thing you can do is give it to her.
2) You mention that you communicated poorly, and now you are saying that it is bad because you are communicating LESS. I would focus on making your communication effective (such as through validation) rather than increasing the quantity.
