New LBH with WAW/possibly WW, need help.

[nutts]

Quit throwing spaghetti at the wall. Either use the process or don't but, it's confusing as hell to you and to her when you go back and forth.

I guess I'm trying to do too much too soon. I haven't read DB/DR yet, and I'm trying to go off what I find on this forum, but part of me is acting like my wife is wayward, which means following sandi's rules; however the Affair is over, and my W never really acted like a WW how Sandi described her.

Bulldog gives some slightly different advice, and it makes sense too.

Honestly, I admit, I'm confused. What I want is the right plan to get my W back at least working on our M, but my W may not fit the WAW mold, nor the WW mold exactly, and I don't want to screw it up.

I'm going to spend as much time as possible going over DB/DR when I get it, and see if I can find something that matches my sitch exactly.

I know Vanilla believes my W will have more A's, and that might be true, but I won't plan for it, and I can't exactly plan for it not happening either, somehow I need to plan for both possibilities, and find the right way to approach the sitch.

I'm sorry I sound so damn wishy-washy. I'll study DB/DR, and maybe have a better perspectice.

Thanks all, I always appreciate support, especially non-sugar-coated truth; we all need those.