Hi Amy. I struggle with the same questions. I haven't found the answers yet. I am starting to think they can only be answered with time and distance.
Yes .. time is our friend. I am sorry that you are going through this as well. Its a shame .. I would not wish this on anyone.
I truly appreciate reading what all the vets and those that have gone before us post. It is wise advice -- it's just hard to take. I wish I had something to numb the pain -- but I know that if I did, I would just have to relive it again in the future.
I am trying to learn that both my H and I have choices. The choices we make, the way we handle this crisis, will hopefully lead us back together. The more I read the more I realize the marriage we once had is gone. If we do reunite -- it will be a new marriage because hopefully we both have grown. I read this over and over again -- trying to have faith and hope. Also knowing the longer I try to hold onto him -- the longer it will take. I must let go because I cannot fix this.
However, it being so recent and so fresh -- I am still weeping over the marriage I just lost. I want to fix it .. UGH ..
Me: 42 Him: 45 Daughter: 13 ____________________________________ Married 16 Years, Together 17 Years BD: 8/15/16 Moved out: 8/26/16