Pink, I was thinking about you yesterday and praying that everyone was doing better and I see that your sons are doing well and you are still hanging in there.
I don't blame you, I would be searching for a new position if they aren't compensating you for your time. You are a single mom w/three sons and every penny counts. I hope you find something soon.
As for your xh, I think that the last conversation you had w/him took the pressure off of him. He's being more attentive to the boys and wanting to cook a meal at your home, etc. As for his stuff still being there...many of them leave their belongings behind. If they aren't bothering you, then leave them be for a while longer.
Your xh isn't baked yet. He's still dealing w/a lot of issues and it may take a while longer for him to come to terms w/his issues and his life as it is now. You have control over your life. If you think limited contact is better for you, then so be it. As Sotto pointed out, what you choose to do and how you interact w/him is up to you. If something isn't working, try something different. Whatever you decide to do, be happy w/your decisions and move forward from there.
This is only my opinion, but I don't think the chapter of your life w/your xh is finished. I think that there is more to write in your look of life.
Pink, I think you are doing well and I do hope that you can dig deeper for patience and know that whatever you decide to do, we will be here to support you. I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers and hope that you find a new position very soon.
Take care.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
