Don't lift a finger toward D from your end. If she wants it she can do the heavy lifting. 180. Get busy living. Do stuff. Be unavailable for every little thing she's bugging you about.
Can I ask what is the reason to be unavailable for every little thing she is bugging you about ? I am the worst at DB it is tie I found and followed the advice
Part of the 180 is to stop doing things for them. Start doing things for yourself. If they say "I need you to fill out these papers and get them back to me by tomorrow," you say I'm busy. I'll get to it when I have time. If they say we need to go over finances for the D this weekend. You say I have plans this weekend. The kicker is to really have plans. Don't allow yourself to sit around lamenting your situation. Do things. Take up hobbies you quit doing when you got married. Make plans with friends. If you have no friends then search for meetup groups in your area for things you like to do. Biking, hiking, running, dancing, books clubs, whatever.
Create your own schedule without consulting WAS/WS. You only plan your comings and goings with your team. They want off your team so they get zero say regarding your schedule. That's what I mean. Walkaway's and wayward's fantasize about moving on. If they see the left behind spouse moving on even quicker it has an effect on them.
