[Sotto]

Hi Bright, I do read along, but don't always post. I'm always pleased to read about your GAL...though (like me) there are times where we need to withdraw a little and get some recovery time!

As for your H - well yes it has been a long time and it does sound as though he is still baking - maybe the oven temp was too low??

My main concern for you in your sitch is the degree to which you maintain links with your H and do things for him. Given the length of time that has passed, I would think it's perfectly reasonable to begin to sever some of those ties. I always think the main question to ask is - does this work for me? Does it work for you that his mail trickles in and builds up and you know you'll need to be in touch to hand it over? Would you fear that bringing some of these things to an end may signal closing the door?

Of course it is your life and always up to you. I'm just putting it out there...and it is within the context of me thinking you are generally doing so well and getting on with your life regardless of him - so kudos to you!

Xx