Things are mostly quiet here. H barely comes out of his room at all. I think if I counted how many words we spoke to each other per week, these days it would be under 50/week even though we live under the same roof. I wonder if I should try something different.
S11 had his birthday and there was oddity around that. We had settled on the day a month ago while all of us were eating dinner. I assumed h had asked S11 for the exact details as we had only narrowed down the day for the party at that time.
H picked out his own gift for S. It was an odd one. (The birthday gift for S13, this year, was also off/for a much younger child.) We use only cell phones now and have for the last few years. (H dropped the landline 1 month before BD. When he bombed me, I started to think he dropped it so that a crazy affair partner could not reach him/me at home.) Anyway, H's gift to S11 was a landline! And he went and got almost the same number we used to have. He requested it.
I will get a big fat F for BDing on this one but I joked: oh, that is just what every 12 year old wants in 2016.
S11 does not yet have a cell phone. H said this way s can make his own calls? S is only home alone for a few minutes at a time. He is only 11! But he never calls friends and vice versa. I know for sure S11 did not ask for a landline and I am thinking maybe h is in the past thinking about what HE wanted when he was 11ish? Hmm.
Anyway, a few days before the party I mentioned something and h suddenly knew nothing about the party!?! So I reminded him he was at the table when we finalized the date. But I did text him apologizing for not giving the details. I told him I just assumed that he asked s (as he usually does this to avoid talking to me). And I told him what s11 wanted for his birthday, a bike with gears (which is something very normal for his age).
Then h got very mad and sent me a nasty text. He told me he already bought a gift; the landline and it would cost something each month. This is where DBing saves me. I simply said: "I had no idea S had asked you for a landline. When I asked what he wanted, he told me a bike." And I left it at that.
He never texted back and he was in a snit/ignored me all weekend. Guess it was all my fault.
BUT, come Sunday we did take S11 bike shopping and h came. He was back like himself. He ascertained what size/brand best worked for S11. He was able to concentrate on the task at hand. Then he said he would comparative shop (like he used to). And he did it. He took S11 and bought something the next day.
He sent me a pic, told me how much he saved and he did a nice job. I validated and when they came home I took a spin, too, as did S13. It's nice!
Otherwise, All Quiet on the MLC Front.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
