It could... I don't think that it is a bad thing ... However, I wouldn't exactly say that it's a sign either... Why do you think that she is asking those things ?? I just wanna hear what you are thinking....
I think if I try to answer that I would be mind reading, and I am trying my best to be a day at a time. However, when I do allow myself to ponder it, I arrive at a few options: She is hoping at some point I will just say "yes, I am dating someone" to relieve her guilt from hurting me and for her dating someone else. -Or- she truly does mean the compliments and she is trying to figure out what motivated the changes b/c she is not in a place in her mind right now to connect the fact that perhaps, I made deliberate changes in myself, on my own and unprovoked by another woman b/c I saw/wanted to change things I did not like. -Or- she is really does wish to take a step towards me, but currently still feel too damaged, unready, confused, ashamed, etc. to feel like she can. That is all I have arrived at. I am not sure I back a particular horse, and I do suppose some hybrid of all of the above could exist on different days.
On the same lines of things I am not reading into are her deep hugs she has been giving me, the occasional cheek kisses, and the recent occasional "I love you"'s she has been dropping.If it was still June, I could still explain it, b/c at that time I thought the A was over, as she said, and I was still fixing/supporting/saving, but now, that is not happening.
I do validate per the Wonka roadmap I adopted from my early days to the board. I have rescued recently, but only as it involved my son. Ex being this past weekend when I drove through the flood water to pick him up so she did not have to drop him off (I have a hi-wheel 4x4 Jeep as I said, she does not, it was safer transport for my son, plus I had already been out, her car would not have made it). But on the flip, she called me tonight with "hey, how are you. I know its last minute and not your childcare night, but if you could take him, I will watch him an extra..."etc. I said no, I had things I had already planned to do.
So like I said, I am not sure where her motivation comes from and while I do allow thought on it, this is far from obsession or salivation in her direction.
"There is no more important fight than the one for ourselves. Keep on winning." Ginger1, Read her newbies. BD: Feb '16 D: Mar '17 Piecing: Putting the self back together was my piecing. S6
