Havne't been on in a while so was catching back up on your sitch and it sounds like a replica of many of us here.
You are the reason the marriage is done based on her so don't try to get her to change her view...its a lost cause and its something any WAW/H does to make them feel better about their decision. My STBX after a year now is still thinks she is a saint and I ruined it all. I am also responsible for ISIS, earthquakes and floods Its their reaction to rationalizing all that is wrong
Her behavior with your D is exactly the same as my stbx. Just keep track of everything and be overly clear with your D on things so your WAW can't cloud up the communications.
Being the house---ugh. It's hard and was the stress that led me to not sleep and eat for 5-6 months. I know how hard it is so hang in there
Continue to focus on you and your daughter and how best to manage the chaos.
_________________________ Me-48 Spouse-WAW 52 Married for 10 years D7 ILYBNILWY 7/15 Suspect EA/PA 12/15 No confirmation/denial She files 1/2016 Working towards the Big D ...still in progress....