"The first 2 months or so, my H would tell me how he was grieving the marriage, how much pain he was in. That drove me crazy,"
Why would that drive you crazy? I don't think you understand that that's how he probably really felt. If you trivialized that as you're doing here, it would only push him further away.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.