I think my wife is in MLC and it seems hopeless

[SBJ]

I actually just got back from an appointment with our MC...no matter how hard the MC tried to direct my wife into saying she was willing to try and work on our marriage...it didn't happen.

She actually said she has an appt on Thurs with an attorney just to ask information. She said that there was not way that she would ever have intimate feelings towards me again and that she never has. What a stab to the heart.

She told the MC that she doesn't see us being married in 6 months. Kind of harsh when your spouse is right next to you. I feel that she is in denial as to how difficult divorce will be...on everyone and everything involved. It's like she is not living in reality.

I ordered the DR today and should have it soon...I also signed up with the DB Coaching and had my first consultation last night. I was able to use one thing during my meeting today...I told my wife that "I do not believe that divorce is the solution to our problems, however I love you and respect you enough if that is what you choose." That was the hardest thing for me to ever say. I love my wife and would never leave her or my children...for anything.

She says that we have been best friends and have raised 3 wonderful kids...but that she feels no passion for me. She is looking for something out side of our marriage that I feel she could find with the one she already has.

We are not being physical in any way...no touching. That is a killer for me as I am a touchy guy (no pun intended). She is the most beautiful woman in the world to me, but she is losing that attractions due to the conflict we are going thru.

We have both been on a health kick since the beginning of the year, but I have slid a bit over the last 3 months...the motivation has been difficult to find. I will get myself back to the gym and continue what I started. I went from 224 to 195 so far...10# to go for my goal.

I love my wife, but the fact that she thinks that I could be friends with her after she divorces me is insane. I am either all in or all out. There is no in between. For the kids sake I hope to be able to keep myself in check during this process.

I'm not sure if it is a MLC or a WW, but I do know that the woman that I share my house with, isn't my wife at this time.