Why the f%#& are you spending YOUR IC time, talking about your wife...???
I was with my IC for about 1 1/2 hours. I spent 20 -30 minutes on my W's alcohol/drug abuse. I had to figure out how to approach her about this because it could affect my kids. My IC also helped me understand what the alcohol is doing to her and how it is effecting her when she is mixing it with the Xanax. I honestly didn't realize what type of drug Xanax is and what it could do when paired with alcohol.
Eagle....I get why...
I was looking for the deeper why, the one that involves you not trying to fix her with YOUR IC time...
The one where you LEAD your family through this without sacrificing yourself to do it....
