I am seeing a pattern in these forums. Many of the MLC spouses seem to have alcohol and/or Xanax problems. I have to give you credit for recognizing these as factors in your problem because most people seem to describe them as if, for example, it is totally normally to drink so much that one passes out.
It did take me some time to realize getting drunk was my W's new thing for handling what was going on. I'm not sure she understood the severity of mixing the alcohol and xanax until I told her what my therapist told me. She has only been home for a couple of nights since we talked about it but she hasn't had any alcohol. I also saw that when she filled out forms to see her new therapist yesterday she listed alcohol as her way of coping. It's up to her to stop but at least she is aware of her problem and maybe with the help of her therapist she can figure out how.
M39, W36 T12, M10 S6,S2 Discovered EA 8/8 that started 7/31
