Letting my weight down...

[sage]

So, school is done for the semester! Hooray!

Got home last night and h wanted to still study for a bit. Cool. So I did the bills, balanced my checkbook.

then we went out to get a new hot water heater (how fun, lol) and for a quick bite. H toasted the end of my semester! also, yesterday was the 18th anniversary of our first date so that got a nod! watched the sox on tv then went to bed.

positives -- h went with me to the gym yesterday AND today! He's really my energy source!

lots of good, comfortable conversation while we were out and about and also while we were watching tv.

h's enthusiam for listening about me -- work, school, etc. I can FEEL him in my corner!

Sage

[psluke]

h's enthusiam for listening about me -- work, school, etc. I can FEEL him in my corner!

Sage

That is so AWESOME!

Glad you have a short break, sounds like you are planning to keep busy over it.

[sage]

Had a great night last night. H is in study mode so I wasn't sure that he'd be up for it but I suggested a movie at our favorite "art house" cinema -- "The Philadelphia Story" which was funny and wry. H seemed very pleased that I had made the invite -- we grabbed sandwiches from a nearby store and ate them "on the stoop" outside the theater.

Before we left for the movie h showed me two suprises that he had mentioned earlier -- h told me that he had bought a new recliner (we had "inherited" one from his parents when they moved) so I went into the TV room and saw this wonderfully matched chair -- sat in it, etc. Told him that I really liked it BUT it turned out that it was the OLD recliner with a very cool slipcover on it -- what a riot! I love the attention and pride h is taking in making the house look good.

THEN he showed me the BIG surprise -- a beautiful telescope for us to stargaze with! h has always wanted one so now we've got one and bigtime plans to have him teach me all about the stars!

Anyway -- before the movies started h thanked me for being "the best wife" -- never one to pass up an opportunity for data, I asked him what made me such a great wife then offered "just list the top three things" .

He said:
My overall thoughtfulness
My sense of humor that keeps increasing and just cracks him up

AND

my enthusiasm for things

As an example for the last one he said that he loved how I was just very excited about the telescope and hadn't made any comments or showed signs of reservation about how much it had cost, whether it was practical, etc.

I told him that I knew that that hadn't always been true (it hasn't ) and that I was sorry for that.

He said he just really appreciated the fact that I trust him to not be irresponsible.

THAT is a direct result of me dropping the rope (feeling as though I always needed to CONTROL everything) and just letting h be -- well, and noting and appreciating all the great stuff he does.

WORDS -- that's what I got -- anybody else notice that???


Sage

[nikatnight]

Sage,

WOW!!! Your whole post is one big fat POSITIVE!! I love the fact that he thanked you for being "the best wife." Feelings can really change can't they??

Dropping the rope and not controlling is so freeing. I too have come along way in regards to being a control freak.

I am soooooo happy that your H is saying and treating you the way you should be treated!!!!

Nik

[Phoenix_In_Bloom]

Thank you Sage for posting your positives...

I know I've been slack about posting mine on my thread...

Reading your positives is a wonderful reminder of what works!

Thank you!!

Hugs.

[slowly]

Hi Sage - Hello best wife

This is such a boost, and the sincerity behind the sentiment, he had reasons for this proclamation - yeah

One day, I hope to get this too. Thanks for sharing good news. Slowly.

[sage]

Hey Nik, PIB, slowly! Thanks for the visit!

Let's see...don't plan on posting much today I've got an 11am presentation then I'm gonna take a mental break (we'll see if I keep this "promise"!).

Had a breakfast date with h yesterday AM since we knew he was going to be out last night. It was his idea which always adds to the +. I went to my brother's baseball game for a bit last night which was fun. Saw my dad and stepmother, too -- they are being super crabby with each other (same old, same old). I think they could each use a copy of DR

had a great burrito from a nearby place and got one for h's lunch for today. when I told him that he was very happy and thanked me again and again. I love doing little things for him so I appreciate the + feedback!

I read a bit (fiction!) too last night. I don't read much for pure pleasure when I'm in school so that was a lovely break.

Rounding out the positives...got one of my two grades already -- scored an A in my "strategic corporate investment" class. My REAL challenge for today will to NOT be obsessively checking for the other grade

Sage

[sage]

Wanted to mention a couple of books that I've looked at the last few days...

First one is "Life without Limits" by Lucinda Bassett. She's also the author of "From Panic to Power" -- the book that I posted some stuff from last week or the week before. Anyway, LWL essentially walks you thru setting a vision and goals in the various areas of ones life (work, home, relationships, etc). It's a very well written book and has quite a few exercises in it to help you refine what you might want to achieve. I'd recommend it for anyone who's having trouble getting his/her head around your "vision".

Amazon's description of Life without Limits

The other book I read was "Fit from Within" by Victoria Moran. It's a series of 2-3 page "chapters" which discuss suggestions for how to become "fit from within" -- or, address eating issues through developing emotional "fitness". Even though I didn't feel I needed it to address food or dieting issues, I thought much of what it said was overall applicable at navigating thru, well, life.

An example:
"Give up the notion of blowing it. When you cannot blow it, the times when you do overreact or live in a negative space will become fewer and fewer. You'll spend less time on remorse and more on fulfillment."

OR

"Take the responsibiliy, not the blame. Do whatever it takes for you, given who you are and the way you see the world, to stop blaming yourself so you can start changing yourself."

Etc.

Amazon's take on Fit from Within

It's a pretty quick read and since it's broken up into small chapters I could see it being useful for someone who'd like a bit of inspiration each day.

Sage

[minnie1]

Sage,

Wanted to mention a couple of books that I've looked at the last few days...

WHEN do you find the time to read all these books? Are you a speed-reader?

Thank you for posting this. The "Life Without Limits" books sounds interesting.

Anyway gotta go. Hope you have a great day!
Minnie

[sage]

WHEN do you find the time to read all these books? Are you a speed-reader?

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I'm a speed "skimmer". I can pretty quickly scan a page and glean what I want or need to get out of it. Also, the "fit from within" book was very accessible and easy to read!

TGIF -- I am SO ready for this work week to be over...even though there's been nothing of note.

Got home pretty early last night and helped h study for a bit (he has his first exam tomorrow! Fingers crossed!). I had an eye doctor's appt so he came with me and we went out for a quick (? Actually, not so quick) bit afterwards. Big time positive -- MORE wonderful words from h -- he toasted me (wouldn't let ME toast to him and to his exam!) with a string of delightful adjectives.

Another postive -- h listened about my job frustration and also my desire to find a new one (scary!). He had some great and positive advice for me.

I'm feeling so much more relaxed and grounded this week...loving THAT!

Sage