Cherry. Filed, moving, spinning..

[Cherry]

I'm not too sure if they did know. I was on maternity loop so I was quite out of the pictures. A few of his male friends knew, but once they found out they completely cut ties with him as they didn't agree and found he was a different man than they thought he was, especially given that he had a wife and newborn at home. These friends of his, as much as they are "trying to help", I do not confide in them, nor do I really speak to them, as I have been told by them that I "need to have respect for myself" "leave and forget about him" "he's making a mockery of me" and the one that riled me the most "you are a mother, be a mother and think of your child". This very much angered me, I don't need some young single man telling me that I need to be a mother, I am a mother 24/7, I always think about my child over myself every second of the day. Some of these men had made advances on me prior to getting with my husband, so I do wonder if that plays a part. I do think that when most of my colleagues get wind, it would be a shared view to kick his a$$ to the kirb.

I do have another close friend I work with, who has known wh for a number of years, she is supportive like my bf, in the sense that she understands that there is a great possibility that this is something way deeper than a problem with the m, the way he is pushing his entire family aside and has had a complete personality overhaul. She like bf, is more concerned about my wellbeing rather than turning this into a man bashing spree. And that I feel is what I need, if I am to openly trust someone and tell them details of my private life (I am a very private person), I want them to support me in what I chose to do and just make sure that I am gaining strength personally in order to navigate this situation into anything that happens.