Thanks Painter. we were never raised with any type of spiritual faith so I don't really have that to rely on. I think it would be nice though..to feel light spititually. Occasionally I can think like that, but it's pretty rare.
I wasn't raised with religion, either. My dad was a very peaceful man, a thinker and wonderer who shared his thoughts with me from when I was quite young, but there was no religion or faith around.
I found a lovely church about 4 years ago - I had been looking at the historic building for years and wanted to go inside it. I went to one service and felt immediately at home. It's a church that attracts people who like tradition, lovely music, and open-mindedness. I eventually joined the choir.
Slowly, I've come to rely on the singing and services and fellowship to support me in my life. It's a choice you make and a habit that you practice, it doesn't just happen, I think.
During the last meeting in Divorce Care, one of the leaders said 'The choices you make today, shapes your character tomorrow.' I feel the choice of attending church (even if my beliefs don't necessarily fit with everything they talk about there) is shaping me and strengthening me. I feel like it puts me back on the track I want to be on and helps me feel better about my life and myself, and it helps me make better choices in general.
If you had asked me 10 years ago, I would never, ever have thought that I would go to church regularly.
You can look up loving-kindness and see what you think about the affirmations/meditations there. They're a little different but I think they could be very helpful in the same way, and they don't require you to go anywhere too early on a Sunday morning.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
