Just to add, if my husband wants to divorce me, he can. While the actually legal procedures take longer, under Islamic law a divorce counts as a divorce just by declaring it. It can be undone simply by taking the other person back without any formal procedures, but that still counts as a divorce. He actually divorced me once many years ago. It was some silly fight we had while eating lunch one day. Honestly I don't even remember what we fought about but he took me back the next morning. It was that small.
But it's not so small because you can only have 3 divorces and then if you want to undo them, the wife has to marry another man before you can remarry. I have told him if he does number 2, that's it, even we want to get back together I won't, because I cannot live with the uncertainty of being divorced a 3rd and final time in the heat of the moment and having no way to undo what is done. And he is more likely to do it in the heat of the moment if I even suggest to him that it is ok for him to do it if he wants. Putting my foot down puts the brakes on with him and that is what we need.
