From DBB's posting:

7. The previous M or R is deceased. Quit digging it up and examining it and trying to breath life into the lifeless form. Start a new R, hopefully with your spouse. But the old R has to die or you will be right back where you are now.

This is the mistake I continue to make...not so much trying to breathe life into it (it's alive, it's alive!! ) but continuing to use it as a baseline and a projector of the future.

I keep saying to myself "if only..."

he would ask me to marry him again
he'd suggest renewing our vows
he'd make a verbal commitment

then we'd be ok...

blahblahblahblahblah

We're more than ok.

I'm the one clinging to the old crap....not him.

I'm the one still kicking the corpse (drama!!!) -- he's already moved on -- set up shop in the new digs.

Yikes, I better get packing!!!

Sage (mixing metaphors all over the place!)

Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.