New LBH with WAW/possibly WW, need help.

[nutts]

Update:

I came home from work, and W was crying on the couch. I guess the OM's W had a friend of her's messages my W, and sent her some awful, nasty messages, some truly low things. They were hard to read, but it was obvious she was saying things to try and hurt my W as much as possible.

It worked. My W isn't the most emotionally stable woman, and she cried for a while, and eventually, she started packing up things to stay at her mom's (her mom came and picked her and my son up). I also think a big part of her crying was she realized her A was over. Again, it hurt me to see her in such pain, but I wasn't overly compassionate, even though I just wanted to hug her (although I'm not sure she would've let me).

She still blames me for it, and she says I exposed the A just to hurt her.

Her Mom came over, and she was mad at me too, I did say I wasn't the one that had a affair with a married man, but then she went off on me because of my porn Addiction and not pleasing my wife like I should have. I guess I should've kept quiet, her mom is always going take her side.

Also, I found in my wife's purse, names of divorce lawyers, and she had also photocopied documents of our finances (savings, car payments, insurance, house mortgage, etc.)

My wife is ready to move on this thing, and I'm feeling hopeless. I hope, before too much time passes, she regains some of the feelings she had for me. Right now, I think she really, REALLY doesn't like me, and I guess her family doesn't either, as they point to me as the one to cause her this pain.

again, sigh...