Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 5

[PsySara]

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Timeline:
Oct 2015; WH confesses he's having an EA with plans to make her his "second wife" (this is not really permitted in Islam and he was distorting the religion to fit his desires), I restore deleted texts and uncover the fact it was a PA. I demand NC, MC and WH to do some reading. He drags his heels and barely agrees, I was pregnant and in the CCU twice with stress induced heart damage.

Jan 2016 WH breaks NC and I threaten divorce, three weeks later I give birth and WH and fight constaantly, he tells me he doesn't love me anywhere

March 2016 WH tells me he misses OW and wants to contact her, I kick him out. He sends texts that he will do anything to not lose his family, his children. I give him a second chance. Later on (in June 2016) I find out the affair resumed days later and in April the relationship died a natural death.

June 2016 I finish my residency and move to my home state (WH worked out of state 3 weeks out of 4) I had been DBing since May and WH noticed consistent changes in me. He requested we start piecing.

We've had HUGE problems and have been back and forth. WH still vacillates back and forth, he has poor boundaries but recently has started questioning why he has such poor boundaries. Recently I have changed my technique as we were drifting seriously towards divorce. I have been using DBing coaching and watching the videos on the Last Resort Technique. I made my approach one of softness and kindness, I have let go of making ultimatums and setting expectations. In the last week WH has had a major turn around and requested we start "dating." I have agreed, we have put our M and our R on hold while we learn about each other again. Effectively we are acting as a new couple and taking nothing for granted. We are polite, well groomed, sexy and flirty with each other. We both have decided to approach this with a beginner's mind and see where this goes.