A couple weeks ago I met with the kids and xW's IC.
Last week xW told my mother that the IC told her that I said that I didn't see the point of the coparenting counseling. I talked to this IC again, told him this, he told me he said no such thing, and that is not what he got out of the conversation with me. Par for the course with xW!
xW told my mother that I was dragging this out. My mother told xW to make a list of her complaints, I would list mine, we could talk in counseling. xW said "OK." Then IC told me xW was waiting to have the first session until after the next court action. I explained to him that we could possibly work it out in counseling, saving the costs of bringing it to court. IC called me Friday to tell me we have our first session set up for this week Thursday.
So, how to approach this? The time sensitive subject is assets. Mediation was extremely biased in her favor. On top of that she took lots of stuff that she wasn't supposed to take and I have it documented with lots of pictures!
The coparenting thing is going to be an interesting subject too, her acting like she is the parent and is just "allowing" me to have time with the kids, like they are only her kids. She says she would never try to keep the kids from me, yet has. I think I am a great parent, yet every week or two she has some new allegation about something I did wrong, and suggests that the kids not be with me.
How much of the unfairness do I go into? I want to say so many things like: - "How is THIS what is best for the kids?" - "Why did you do these things?" (Allegations, the OFP, rumors, greediness, etc) - "When are you going to return my stuff?" (There are a few things she has agreed she has to return, but they are tiny things compared to the large items. And it's been many months, she has been too busy playing. And she damaged the pictures she returned). - "I have done the right thing over and over (offering her to stay in the house, letting her blow all the money out of the joint account, trusting her to divide a couple large things evenly, trusting her to actually follow the decree), she "punishes" over and over. - "YOU created this situation, only YOU can make it right."
Nothing but a pile of random thoughts flying around at this point. I haven't seen my IC for a while, but last time I did, she suggested I keep all "blame" out of the conversation, if I do "blame" will just prove to xW that I am still the same, won't let things go. Wait, I won't let things go because she won't stop doing them! I get so tired of taking the high road. I get so tired of her taking advantage of the situation, I just want it to become "fair."
