Detached, getting along better, but in limbo....

[Surfer]

W was quite late dropping kids for school this morning. Always late for everyone, school plays the lot. Disorganised. Is this common amongst a WS?

Said "you're late this morning" in a friendly way. She the began an "I didn't do it on purpose rant", "I couldn't find my keys", I just said okay. She then stopped and talked to D6.

Kids were very happy and we had a lovely 30mins together. They went into school very happy.

Have had quite a heavy weekend Friday and Saturday out, beers with the boys and then went to a BBQ. Yesterday a friend stayed, had dinner and watched a film. Going to kick start a healthy eating and exercise regime this week as I have been lazy. Then try and work out a hobby.

Lots to do. D8 said mummy is still on her phone a lot texting, whattsapp etc. This is the communication mode for the OM. It's how I caught them. It's hard to know how to deal with this. I know I am mind reading as she may not be in contact. Also, why should I care, I am a little numb to it rather than upset as such.

I still don't feel in control as WW is not progressing mediation. Thing is though, I don't want to be in touch with her when she is wayward. I don't find her agreeable as a person - but I am funding her heavily. Time to speak to L re: separation agreement or questioning whether this is going forward or not perhaps. Perhaps the separation agreement can just be used to draw some financial and custody lines. The latter might just look like I am pushing for the D which obviously I don't want - but then if she is never going to change (possible of course), I don't feel so keen to have her back. I can't really talk to WW about all this as it's R talk.

The kids want us together though, if she changes of course I could want her back. So we have a happy family unit.

On another note. I was reading DB and it was talking about how parents divorcing children or visa versa would be absured - yet with a S it is obviously very common. It is an odd concept.

Surfer.