Thank you Sandi for setting me straight. I just re-read the 37 rules, and I'll go over the threads soon too.
I have to accept this is a long process, and I need patience. I think I'm fully learning this now.
Update:
I got another message from OM's W, the OM and my W tried to deny any sex went on, but finally the OM admitted it to his W. OM's W is obviously upset, and told me she plans on coming to our state and confronting my W (OM's W works for an airline, and we're near a major hub).
Should I dissuade that, or should I urge it on? Maybe it will make my W truly stop the A, but I would hope the OM would stop it anyway.
Thanks.
Don't dissuade anything. Your wife is an adult who is responsible for her actions. She poached another woman's husband. Let her answer for that, not you. I admire the OM's W. She's not being passive about this at all. That's a good thing.
