It's strange reading both your posts as I've been feeling the same way the last number of weeks. Like you both say, it's the feeling of her just not having the capacity to see and understand. I'm 10 months down the road (which I know is still short in many cases) but there is still so much hostility that is so hard to understand. I've been hurt many times by people, friends and by my W but haven't carried this much hostility for this long.
Sorry Blu to be on your thread, I do feel that you show an amazing amount of strength and character.