Not every MLCer monsters. However, his comment that you are a good woman and he is just confused, THAT confusion is a hallmark of MLC.
And if he was a good father prior to this, now he sees your daughter infrequently, right? Didn't you say every few weeks? If it was all you, he wouldn't also distance from your daughter and change his life so drastically. He is operating on feelings, little logic.
And no, you don't want this version of him back right now. Trust me. He's a mess right now.
What can you do to work off some of this steam? One of the techniques to employ is getting out of your own head. I (still!) often leave and go for a hike or a long walk.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
