Hi URWorthy

Thanks for dropping by! I've got the kids this week, so I'm kinda mega busy. Yes I know it's madness to look at every sign and think 'hmm', but I'm human.

Let's take this Friday, when she came to drop them off for the week. Very courteous, no spew and was asking me about the meet up with my nephew. She was distinctly nervous when I told her that he'd lived beside her parents, and her Dad had started taking him to the mosque (my W is half UK White and half arab - although that isn't from her Dad, as she didn't know her biological father). She began questioning me on what I'd told him about 'us' (a few months ago, there was no us). I explained what had gone off and she went kinda embarrassed. I could guess and say she's told her parents a whole host of different things, but I don't know. She's off to see them next week with the kids.

She then started talking about my sisters. Read further up this thread as to the why's and wherefore's, but started talking about forgiveness. I explained that I could forgive anything, but the person I would be forgiving would have to have some contrition and actually want to be meaningful and constructive. Again, no idea what she really meant, but she stayed for about 15 minutes, just talking.

Anyway, back to me, pushing my comfort zone is the gym. A long time ago, I was reasonably fit and strong. I noticed my upper body strength had been going away, and I have now built it back up. I'm not some stunner, and I could probably be the father to most of the people in there, but it took some gumption to actually get off my backside and sign up. Just getting changed amongst strangers was a minor mountain I climbed.

Whacked out with the kids today. Edinburgh yesterday, Glasgow today, back to Edinburgh tomorrow. My wallet is feeling the pain!


M 45 W 52
SD22 S9 D8
BD 6 April 2015
Not living together 4 Dec 2015