Mmmm, hopefully one of the vets will chime in here however FMPOV what would you have done if you had only just met her? You had a life before her right and now she left you for over a year so did she expect you to have not made any plans or have no life when she was gone?

Also this is the new you and a new relationship. No more codependency just giving each other space to walk your own path. I think she might be disappointed but she'll get over it!

By the way I am jealous! I went to Hawaii many, many years ago and still long to go back!


Me - 47
H - 45
D-16
M - 6 years
Separated - May 16

Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')