Yep, coconut is spot on, do not move out under any circumstance. She will try her hardest to convince you it's the right thing to do, but it is not. You aren't the catalyst for this sh:tshow, she is. If she needs to move out then that's her choice.
Stay in the MBR, stay in your house. Be strong and follow all the advice in coconuts note above and it'll be easier to get through this. Unsure where I got this quote, but it's very relevant to you right now:
"Time is your friend, impulse is your enemy"
Take your time, be thoughtful in your responses, and be deliberate in your actions. Take back the control.
Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18