New LBH with WAW/possibly WW, need help.

[lt0402]

A lot has happened in a short period of time nutts. You're going through a massive emotional swing right now as things move so quickly. It's hard to do, but you've got to take a step back and get the control back.

You've out'ed the A, so at this point it's how to deal with it. No going back and replaying it and wondering if you should have done it or not. You need to be in the present, in the moment, and get yourself off the emotional roller coaster and back to neutral. Nothing good happens when you are at these emotional extremes.

What is your plan for you for when you wake up? What are you going to do to help yourself? I'd offer a run, a hike, or even going for a long walk would help immensely. Don't follow around your W. Don't wait around the house for her. Get up before her and be gone. Don't leave a note. Don't tell her where. Just go out and do something for yourself to get your head clear.

As for your W, you don't need her forgiveness. You shouldn't be looking for her to forgive you for outting the A. That's her circus. Was it the right thing to do? Who knows, but it's done.

Stick to doing things that are the right thing to do. Keep your integrity and honor intact. You should not do or don't do things bc of how your W will respond. Do them bc they are the right thing to do.

Get some rest. Get some time to clear your head. Tomorrow is a new day. Take it an hour at a time if necessary. Be strong and keep pushing ahead. We are here to support you brother!