Five months ago today was my BD day. My daughter and I returned from TX after she got her Master’s degree and we walked into a house where a lot of my marital belongings were removed as my W walked out on me. Maybe it’s fitting Hurricane Matthew swung by today to grace us.

I’m sitting in an empty house. I have no power as the hurricane knocked power out for most in the region. It’s an eerie calm and the quiet is only barely interrupted by the faint hum of a generator in the distance. The quiet makes this house even more empty and lonely. It’s also dark with only the dim glow of a candle and my computer screen lighting up the room.

Since my W left me so many things have changed and in numerous ways time has stood still. I still find it hard believing it’s only been five months. It seems much longer. I’m so thankful I live in a state that in many ways is backwards but the laws are still steered towards keeping a marriage together as you have to be separated for a year before a divorce can happen. I used to think the law was stupid making couples wait a year to get divorced. I figured if one spouse wanted a divorce then there was nothing the state could do to prevent that. Of course, I never thought I would be the one thankful for the year. I read almost all the posts on this message board and I’m shocked at how quickly divorce can happen. It’s as if the law has deemed trying to reconcile a waste of time. One spouse isn’t happy, file for divorce, and bam, you’re divorced. My W may still divorce me even after the year but at least I know I will have some time on my side to at least try.

I also wonder what an “amicable” divorce really means. How often when you hear people getting divorced is it really amicable? I’m sure if my W and I do get a divorce it will be considered amicable because I don’t think there will be any viciousness involved, but IMO, the divorce won’t be harmonious.

Didn’t mean to ramble. I guess when the house is dark thoughts creep into your head. My W did call. We only spoke a few minutes. She has a downed power line across her car so she is stuck where she is at unless one of her friends come by and pick her up. I do feel bad for her, but part of me thinks it’s funny.

Well, it’s time to put my grill out and start cooking some stuff that is thawing in the freezer. I will be cooking by flashlight.


M 55 W 52
MR 32 T 34+
D29
BD May 8, 2016 - She moved out
ILYBNILWY May 15 (Through email)
No EA/PA
August 23 - DB used against me in every way
Divorce July 18, 2017 - Life is getting better every day