I totally get that, in fact the men on this side of the tracks typically do not want to toss out the personal stuff either. I was one of those ... she was the one with MLC and the problem not me so what would sharing my internal thoughts/feelings .. most of all FEARS do but make me even more uncomfortable in this mess than I already was. Then a few things started happeneing, some vets for some reason took notice of my thread ... they started asking me the hard questions, ones I avoided .. again they persisted.. pushing me to look in that mirror at Cali and I for the first time in my life started actually seeing who that person was and change began.
I share this to express how important the LBS journey is, I think in fact its more important than the one our MLCrs are on.... why? Because we can actually walk this path and a few of the brilliant people here can make you puch yourself to walk the harder road which in fact creates a better you .. I am here to testify that I have become better due to people here who did not have to care, did not have to help but thankfully they did.
You may feel uncomfortable sharing ... I did too, its hard to help someone who will not get out of the car ya know? I am nt saying spill all beans, I have read your sitch from post one and I can see some issues that may be ... well different in approach than the majority here ... that being said the approach is the same, the advice will be the same and most of all the journey is also the same ... his MLC is his to own, you r journey is also yours and its how you would like to proceed from here on out that will define where you end up.
