We all know we can't fix our MLC spouses. Obviously, we are part of the problem in their mind so we can't really provide them with the kind of support we otherwise would be able to give and move it along. But what about other people? Can their family (e.g. parents, siblings) help them through it in any way? If they are confused, can someone else who knows them well help them through it?
The problem is .... they do not seem to think there is a problem, they are unhappy and will pursue things that make them happy, they feel a rush doing this ... Affairs, drinking, drugs, spending money, maybe all of these... whatever the fix like an addict they pursue this. So the spouse, family, friends really can not help them through this, they need to face it alone and get to that dark place that was the reason the crisis started, deal with that and slowly heal and come out of the tunnel. Problem with this is then facing the damage done, bridges burnt ... some run back in, some accept it is what it is and the damage is done and they attempt to pick up what is left and live with the results, others may try to make amends .... some sadly never come out of that tunnel ... results vary.
