Don't let this spin out of your control nutts. Let things slow down a bit. A lot has happened he past cpl days. Best to stop reacting and put some time between your decisions.

As to your question, no good advice from me. One of the vets may be able to help

Me39
M11 : T13
D9
BD 5/31/16
In House S until 6/21/17
Divorced 10/5/18