Going forward, I'll definitely try and work on me. The W moved her stuff to the guest bedroom and will be sleeping there. She asked me this morning, "How long are we going to do this?" (meaning living together but separated) I didn't know, and she didn't know. I want to try and slow things down for her (the D process at least) so I'm just going to stall while I can.
I also had a conversation with OM's W over messenger; basically she's upset, but she wants to catch him in the act. She's not sure she can sneak and get into his phone to check the FB messenger (which is what I suggested to find her proof). I don't know when or if she will confront him. I confirmed to her they had sex at the beach. We'll see if she confronts him, and I hope she does because I need OM out of my W's life.
I did go out with a friend (whom I learned also had a WW and was dealing with this crap) but his has been going on for a while. The big difference, his W doesn't want to break up their family, my W has no qualms about that.
I got home late, the wife was in her bed, I didn't say anything to her, I just went to bed. I did go see her and talk to her this morning. Before I left, I gave her a hug; I need to stop doing that, but it's so hard. I'll work on that for sure, detaching.
Until next time, good luck to you all.
M 40 W 40 S 2.5 Together 13 years Married 11 years BD: 09/23/16 PA, then long Distance EA confirmed 9/30/16 Exposed A to OM's W 10/7/16 A ended 10/10/16
