Don't assume that her replay will be over soon. It will take as long as it takes and it could be a while longer. Don't base your assumption on comparisons. Yes, comparisons are good markers, but each person is unique, their issues are unique and how they deal w/their crisis will be unique. Bottom line...it will take as long as it takes. Okay?
Yes, they are very confused because it's emotional and let's face it, emotions are all over the place and one minute they think this and the next they think that. They are like the little ball in a pinball machine, i.e., bouncing all over the place.
I'm not surprised to read that her eyes were swollen and red. They all have times when they cry and they will not tell you why. Some cry when they leave the house after visiting, some cry in the driveway before coming in and others cry at the drop of a hat and we will not know the reasons why. It could be the guilt and shame eating at them, it could be because they are confused and can't understand why they are where they are at the moment, etc. I'm glad you didn't ask her about it. If she wants to talk, she will and you just listen, as a good friend would do.
Sounds like she's trying to find ways to ease her pain.
Continue to keep the focus on you. What are your plans for the weekend?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
