Return Trip for advice

[Bunches]

Hi,

I haven't made use of this site in a couple years now, but today I don't feel like I can turn to anyone I know personally so I come back here for advice from those of you who might understand.

My now X wife has been gone for nearly 3 years. Divorce was final last summer. X had been seeing OM for the first year she left but had stopped dating all together and had spent a long time alone. We've been spending time together each week when she visits for the last year. She only has a couple hours one day each week to spend with our son so we fell into a habit of meeting somewhere and making it a joint effort. We talk and she seems to open up at times about her life and whats going on without me prying, just asking whats up. I don't know when but I guess I had started to feel like things were healing and maybe on the road to...something.

This morning I received a large text saying that she didn't know how to talk to me about it in person but felt she owed me the courtesy of being up front about it. She has met someone, dating for a bit now and decided she wants them to meet our son. I feel like an idiot for even caring after so long but its really getting to me. I know DB tells me that she is on her own path now, to focus on me and my life. But the advice I need is about our interaction. I feel like if she is continuing back down this route then she has to loose this relationship with me and that I can't have this relationship with her for my own sake. I'm concerned if that is right. I get texts at least every other day asking how S8 day was or how he is feeling or how our day is going. Before it seemed okay to have dialog and just talk to her about it but now I just don't know. Most people would say just hand the phone to S8 and let her talk to him but he is non verbal autism and can't talk to her. She relies on me to include her and inform her of everything.

I don't have a great track record of reacting well with X and OM situations. Input or thoughts would be appreciated.