Detached, getting along better, but in limbo....

[Surfer]

Bought S6 a lego toy on line as I bought D8 some books and he felt it was unfair. It wasn't that he asked an I got it - I told a fib and said, "it's not unfair as you have something too and you will see it when it arrived" I told him what it was.

Like all little kids he is excited and wants it now. I have explained it won't arrive until Weds.

Anyway W texted and said he wants to talk about Lego can I call him. So I do. He is upset as he really wants his Lego. He's bored with WW at home basically. W does a bit of blaming in a non-aggressive way - don't tell him if he's got something coming as he gets like this and it looks like you have done this to upset him on my weekend and you are trying to buy his love. Prior to her winding this up into a major arguement I halted her and said I am sorry he is upset but I have explained to him and I am trying to be kind not malicious and you need to hear that and not the nonsense that this is some sort of mean thing. He needs to know that things are not always 'I want it now delivered' so this is not a bad thing.

She seemed to listed and she shared something frustrating but funny and we laughed. She also said if I had nothing on and wanted to pop round to see the kids I could. Personally I am quite okay today and the kids will be too (they are not asking for me, she is bored or is picking me up as the plan B IDK). In short it doesn't feel like this will work for me. I may nip round very briefly later but I will see - I could do with picking something up that she has.

This is an example of her being stone cold and mean hearted 2 days ago and now laughing and joking. I find this behaviour confusing if I think about it. So I won't and I also won't let this behaviour dictate mine or my actions. I think that makes sense.

In short when she said if you fancy popping over later.....I didn't respond. I am not going to text or call on this. It's a 180 for me but being more illusive and less available seems to work for others. She may well just be temp checking IDK and IDC.

I would welcome any thoughts.

Surfer.