Hi trumpet, BD was 14th Dec 2015 but there was a previous BD in Feb 15 where W said she nearly went to begin an affair but came home. However, thoughtout the year said he was just a friend and said it wasn't important when she interacted with him at work. I didn't find this site until the beginning of this year. I had found many things about EA's and tried to get her to read stuff but it was falling on deaf ears. I understand why now after being on this site.
My thing is although she says she broke, I just see the same person she has always been. She has chosen friends over me before and then turned it on me, even on our wedding day, she was talking to friends when I went up to her to go dancing and I got told to "Go away"... I didn't say anything at the time but when I brought it up later it was my reaction that was the problem...
I have learnt through this that W is someone that needs and wants all the emotional support needed but the few occasions I have needed she goes missing and generally walks out the door. Over the years I kept trying to change myself to adapt but just lost myself in the process. I'm not going to let that happen again and if it means walking away from this M, then so be it.
W has been someone that wants you to be interested in her and all her interests but really isn't interested in me or mine. Nothing has changed during this time, I get random messages with snippets of her life but never once has asked about me since she moved out. She needs to be center of attention and when we worked it's because i did that. When I have had my own life and doing other things, is when there has been issues.
