I know I have mentioned before that our son stole some money from me last summer (2015) and has for the last year not put much effort into getting a job. Last week I stopped by one of the fast-food places where he has supposedly applied, but wasn't hired to ask the manager what she was looking for and what tips I could give my son so he could come back in and get a job. She was going to take his name, but I told her I wanted him to do it himself, so I didn't give it to her. I e-mailed ExW the next day to let her know that I spoke with the manager who said she is always hiring and for him to go back in and ask for her. I told ExW that I am tired of the excuses and that he needs to get off his butt and get a job. I thought I might get a little support, as she has had a pleasant streak lately, but she just let me have it. She continued to make excuses for him and said "The failure and rejections have been absolutely confidence-crushing, and all his father cares about is the money and whether he's "trying hard enough." Then she told me to leave her and the kids alone.
She went on to say many other nasty things and I was tempted to respond, but have hesitated even though she was dead wrong about many of the things she said, and I know she was just waiting for me to take the bait (at least that's what I think). I know a lot of what she said was projection, but it is still frustrating to sit here and not respond (thanks to all of you for letting me vent on here).
Our son will be eighteen in exactly two months and has absolutely no plan. He gets upset when I talk to him about it. I do not think he is in any way prepared to live on his own. I am sure if I tell him he can't live here, ExW or her parents will take him in and continue enabling him. I have threatened for the last year to cut off his phone, but have been told by him that he will not be able to get a job without it. At this point, the excuse has gotten old and I am seriously considering doing it tomorrow, but I know I will catch hell from ExW and both of my youngest kids. Anyone else have experiences like this?
