Cherry. There are many alternatives here and we all mean well.
Choose the one action that you can live with. Remember that we will not be living the consequences of your action.
This is my take. I failed, not because I was a doormat, but because I swung and I couldnt act from a place of calm, detachment and compassion.
Cherry, I dont know how to put this across but I feel that he should know that you know about the A and the skank. That you don't condone the A but you're willing to work things through. I don't know how to put this across but I strongly believe that this can be done in a non doormat way. Maybe someone else can help.
On the moving out part, I can see that his presence is affecting you and s. That is because you are not detached. It's not easy, it really isnt.
Is there any way you can lessen this effect?
He is going to move out anyway. If he is going to move out. If we believe what he says. His actions and words are contradictory. We dont know what to believe and we shouldn't let ourselves spin because he's spinning too.
If you asked him to move out, and he does, how would you feel? Would that be a better situation to be in compared to where you are now?
If he stays, and he continues to act like an a$$hat, will you be able to take this?
Only you can answer these questions.
I feel that skank can't provide what you can provide and that when reality bites, it will bite hard.
I believe that reality will bite your wh. I just don't know when and how.
Cherry, I know that I have asked you this b4 but do you think you could speak to a db coach?
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
