I've just finished reading all your threads FY. There were two others who posted in your threads that really caught my eye and I plan to read their threads next. You are a success story. Maybe you haven't gotten what you sought out to get from the beginning but you seem to have grown to accept the new W and that is important. Here's the things that I thought that you really offered your wife that look to me as really smart:
Compassion
Unconditional Love
Patience
No judgment
Appreciation
Respectful
Commitment
These are the traits you expressed when you talked about your wife, and I am certain that you also demonstrated them to her. This is probably the reason you are still together.
No anger, despair, frustration, criticism, which unfortunately I see a lot of on these boards. It was never "What she is doing to me" but rather "What she is going through." You always put her first even though it is clear you have your own needs.
I just have to say you are my new role model. Thank you.
