...a true act of love would be to give him a better version of you if/when he returns ....
I want to pull this out because one of the lessons we learn as LBSs on this journey -- on our journey -- is that if we truly love the other person we MUST let them go and do what it is they believe they have to do right now. Yes it hurts, but we have to love them enough to let them go...
But I love what Cali says here about a true act of love. I do love my MLCer exW enough to let her go (and risk that she may not come back), but I also love her enough to know that this gift of time is time for me to learn and grow and become a better person so that when she wakes up she sees a better version of me and not the person she left behind when she left. I also love myself enough to give myself the gift of a better me, and I love my kids enough to give them the gift of a better me. I still hope and pray that my exW is the one who gets to enjoy the new me, but I am becoming a better version of me regardless of what happens in the long run.
Me 48, Her 50 (Same-Sex Couple) 3 Children Together: 9.5 years before BD BD: Week of 10/27/14 ExW started EA w OW 9/2014 ExW married OW 12/2015
