I throughly confused. I've been DBing following Sandi's rules but my heart thinks I should try marriage counseling. I know she's not into it but my hope is that once she get's in there, something might happen to soften her stance.
Look, I'm terrified of losing my wife and family. After all that's happened these last two weeks, I still love my wife and I'm willing to fight for our marriage. I really don't know what to do. Help.
Breathe
All this is FEAR, which is keeping you stuck. I get it .. I was there too.
Ok, to go back and answer your question about bringing up the fact your W wants D in MC... no .. do not do that. You do not want D, so you do not even bring up the topic .. in fact if you are DBing you don't initiate any R talks what so ever right>?
You need to detach a bit, you are sucked in emotionally and feel that this thing is a runaway train and its going to destroy you ... truth is if you keep clinging to all this it will do just that. Recall reading DB and there is a portion that says all this feels to be against your very nature, feels like its the opposite of what you should do ... this is that time. You are here because you want to save your M, its time to actually APPLY the DB principles to your sitch, not just read, not react, but to walk and talk DB and give it time to work, its not going to happen tomorrow .... it took you some time to get here its going to take time to get out.
