It's not a weapon. It's a step toward removing distractions from working on your marriage. It's impossible to work on a marriage if there are more than two people in it. The person in the A goes into a fog and they're not themselves. You can't reason with them. They're not going to do anything logically while an A is going on. You'd be wasting your time to even try to work on the marriage if there is an active A.
Personally I was db'ing and didn't expose. The OBS did. She exposed to everyone and that did, in fact, end the A.
